First Works…Understanding the Ministry of a wife

Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent. Rev 2:4-5


I have to tell you, I am not a hypocritical person, at all. I don’t mind telling people the issues that I have. I am in no way perfect. I still have areas in my life that are far from maturity. When I say things I am always the first partaker of the message. I never point fingers at people because

I don’t judge what people do in the flesh. We are all working on something. I am sure someone out there is wondering “what does she do?” especially since we have been tainted in our minds against preachers. We forget that they are people and they are subject to habits as everyone else. Though Jesus already told us that none is “good” but the Father (Matthew 19:17). Still we think that are not allowed to have issues. In any case, one of my areas of immaturity is the area of marriage.

I have to tell you that I thought I had conquered this thing a couple of years ago. G-d had showed me the things that a home should be operating in and the very nature of a wife. I did it well. But then some new things happened and I literally said the hell with it. So I have neglected some areas that I used to tend to as it relates to my husband.
Anyone who knows me, knows that I love to cook. I can cook anything. Cooking used to be the greatest part of my day. I spent more time in the kitchen then anywhere else. (Hence the up and down battle with weight) Bt I don’t cook like I used to anymore. Mainly because I have to prepare 2 separate meals and I just got tired of doing that 2 or 3 times a day. My husband is southern but he does not enjoy southern fare. He is for the most part a junk food eater. I like “real” food. Veggies, bread, roast (beef, never pork). I desire to cook that and he wants tacos. Now mind you I knew all of this prior to getting married. (I thought I would win him over to my tastes. But ten years later, it’s the same).

So a couple of years ago, G-d had showed me that despite all of that, it was still my responsibility to do it accordingly. And I did. Until things changed and I became angry, “I can just ignore you wife”. Yesterday I was reading SugarGirls blog and she confirmed some things that G-d had spoken to me and though I didn’t like it, I understand his point. I realize that I am too ignorant to argue with him. Now, this morning while in the kitchen preparing brunch--he reminded me of Rev 2:4-5. So here I am.


Now, surely I am not a dumb person. I know I should be doind things differently. But my “excuse” has been, I wouldn’t have done that if he had never--any number of things. When God gives you instructions, it really does not matter who is right or wrong. All he wants you to do is what he asked you to do. You can complain all you want, and he’ll ignore what you re asking him about until you HEAR him in what he said and get it. Once you slow down and shut up, and HEAR him, then he’ll answer him. But you not going to “over talk” him as my mother used to say.


Now I said all of this, because as a woman, it is my sole responsibility to create the atmosphere of my home. As a wife it’s my duty to do what is necessary regardless of what I feel. My home is a ministry. Ministry work has to be done whether I feel like it or not on some days. I am sending the wrong signal to my children as well. If everything else is right but one thing is off, they’ll pick up on the one wrong thing. Being a wife means keeping a servant heart. You are never serving people anyway. You are serving G-d. We learn how to serve people by serving him through people.


G-d desires that we “get over” ourselves enough to do all things as unto him. Pointing fingers if both trivial and immature. He could really care less about what someone else has done to you once he has given you orders to things his way. I have to allow him to deal with me and not worry about when he deals with them. I have enough to focus on with just me. I was reminded this morning that operating in maturity is being able to remain the same despite circumstances or situations. It’s easy to do all the things the way he wants you to when things are all flowery and lovely--the real test comes when you have to continue in the first works after the rose colored glasses come off.


I am also reminded that every thing is a seed. So I need to sow the best seed for future harvests regardless of what the field looks like today. I may not reap that harvest--good or bad--over here, but somewhere along the line, it’s coming. Our Father is so awesome that he will teach you how to exist in any situation until it’s time for your Exodus, whether it’s your home, your job and even your church. It’s not that he doesn’t know or understand what you are going through, but he needs you to do is to focus on doing the first works regardless, as unto him. When you look at it that way, it’s easier to handle. Being able to do it his way kills the flesh in that area and teaches you humility and meekness.


I am reminded of the children of Israel when G-d tells them that they could’ve escaped in 11 days yet they circled the same mountain so that he could humble them and prove them (Deut 8:2).

For me, in all situations, I just want things right with him. I want to have that clean heart David was crying out to G-d for in Psalm 51.

I shared this, because one day it may be of value to someone else.

As always, Be Blessed.
Chosen.